I recently got off my birth control so me and my boyfriend decided not to have any sex to be safe, even though we use a condom, but we did anal today since of course you can't get pregnancy from that. But when he was done some of it dripped down to my vagina and wiped what I could away with a wet rag. But now I was wondering, could I get pregnant if a few were just outside my vagina? Like could they swim and make it all the way up there to the egg? So basically, can you get pregnant from cumming on the outside of the vagina and not in it? If so, what are the chances?
09/04/2010 05:19 AM
What are the safest condoms but also still feel good to a man. Because I've heard some condoms brake easily and experienced that on ma own so does anyone know the safest condoms to use that will most likely not brake while having sex.
09/04/2010 03:41 AM
What is the difference between Vaginal Discharge and Ovulation. I know that its a better idea to substain from sex during ovulation, and that vaginal discharge occurs after you ovulate. But how can you tell whether you are ovulating or having a vaginal discharge? Also is it safe(r) to have sex during a vaginal discharge? My boyfriend and I have been going out for close to six months and think its time to make love to each other. We are both virgins. I can't get on birth control however we plan to use condoms. Is there anything else we can do to decrease the risk of getting pregnant ( other than abstinance) ? All answers are greatly appretiated!
09/04/2010 12:37 AM
ok so last week i went to the doctor to put me on the pill she said i couldn start till the first day of my periods i dont really understand what difference would it make if i just took it now. ???? does it work straight away, i also was going to use a comdom if hardy comes to hardy.. or should i just wait till im on the pill i have it but cant start and then when im on it use both?? i heard the saying once before better safe than sorry??
09/03/2010 08:46 PM
I take three packs back to back without using the inactive pill week in between (a.k.a. don't get a period). Husband's condom slipped off without us knowing. I am on day 5 of a new pack. Last month I missed a dose here and there, but took my pill as soon as possible after realizing. But since starting the new pack, I haven't missed a single dose. Also, I'm on a topical antibiotic for my acne (Acanya). Should we go get Plan B just to be safe?
09/03/2010 06:45 PM
When we just started our sex life with my man, we used condoms, but after a couple of mounth he just stop use condoms (though before he asked me if i take pill- i said "no"). And finally i got pregnant, but did abortion, and i told him about my pregnancy, he started to ask me silly questions like "r u ready to be a mom, do u realise that its a hard work to be a good wife and mom" (what he meants by this questions?) also he offered me to go to doctor together, but that time i didnt safe my pregnancy because i took antibiotics when didnt know i was pregnant, so i made abortion. And he knew that, and we never talked about this after (why?) and he still dont use condoms...what does he want?
09/03/2010 04:42 PM
Guys i ll have sex with my girlfriend for a very first time i am so excited but also bit nervous ! Help me out. . ! We both are 18 ....i don't want to use condom is it safe? And my Dick is like 5 inches will my Dick ll satisfy her? And tell me how to satisfy her she is virgin ....helpful answers would be really apprecited....
09/03/2010 10:37 AM
I went to a religious school where contraception wasn't really talked about because it went against the school ethos so please help! I'd like to know what types of contraception you use and if it's effective (if you don't mind sharing). I really don't want to take any pill or patch that alters my hormones as female friends and relatives who've taken such implements have ended up with fibroids, polycystic ovaries, endometriosis etc. These conditions may not be side effects of using this method BUT it seems a little bit coincidental to me. Although the government say it's safe for use they once said the same thing about smoking so I think i'm right to be cautious. Anyway what I'm really trying to say is whether simply using condoms is effective. I'd just be scared of them splitting...
09/03/2010 09:41 AM
How good do they prevent pregnancy?
09/03/2010 03:57 AM
I only have 2 options for birth control and one time the condom broke on me and so i still would prefer to use condoms because i did some research on the iud and it comes with a lot of risks and side affects and im not sure how i would feel getting that...plus once my mind is made up that i want another baby i would like to be able to only try once like in the past. Please help me and give me some suggestions!!
09/03/2010 12:20 AM
I'm in my middle 20's, a college graduate and often fantasize about a sexual encounter with me (a female) & two guys. Is this bad? I so freakin seriously wanna do this. If u have done so let me know ur experience and how u felt afterwards and if not how do u feel about it. Please no smart remarks I'm only human! I am in a relationship and I know the guy I'm involved with wouldn't dare do this so do I just suppress the issue knowing that I'm involved but damn u only live once lol SAFE SEX not without a condom y'all ;) I really prefer both the guys to be str8...hmmm how likely is that...I don't want them fondling each other lol during the session Threesome
09/03/2010 12:03 AM
My friend has it and her and her partner both were treated for it yesterday and today. Is it safe for them to have intercourse?
09/02/2010 09:34 PM
I'm 17 going in 18 and I have been expering PMS symptoms everytime my period is about to come so I was thinking to myself can you have PMS while on birth control pills or is it something else I have to worry about?? Also I have been on birth control pills for a year now and me and my bf have been super safe when it comes to sex. We even use the condom that have spermide on them. Please help with my problem :/ P.S I take my pill everyday at the same time
09/02/2010 08:07 PM
I got on BC when I got married and used them until 2007 and got pregnant the first month off of them. As soon as I had my sonin 2008, I got right back on them. I am regular and have no problems with it, and my dr. tells me it is safe to use for decades, but I wonder. My mom used them from 1977-today other than the 2 years she was pregnant. Do you have any major cons of years of birth control use? I only have one child so I'm not ready for my husband to get snipped and I do not trust condoms for reliable birth control.
09/02/2010 07:08 PM
I have kept track of the days she is most fertile. Last month we had sex during the time she was fertile, and I pretended to put a condom on but really didn't. She thought we were having safe sex. Anyway, I put it in and we had sex, for maybe under a minute, before I felt bad and pulled it out before ejaculating. Later I regretted that and just wished I could go back and finish. I ejaculated 15 minutes before that while masturbating so I was still hoping there would be traces of sperm in the pre-ejaculate. But a few weeks went by and she got her period. I am completely devastated. Words cannot even describe how much I want to have a baby with her. We are both adults, btw. Why didn't she get pregnant? She was very much so fertile and I put my penis in. Wouldn't there be an extremely high chance even if I didn't ejaculate inside of her? Please don't judge me for doing this until you've walked a mile in my shoes. I just need to know how in the hell it's even remotely possible that she didn't get pregnant when she was more fertile than she could possibly be and I got pre-ejaculate inside of her.
09/02/2010 06:01 PM
This may seem like a very far fetched question. My girlfriend and I have been sexually active for a few months. She has been on the pill for quite awhile (6+ months) and takes it as directed. We are in our 20s. We have sex 2-3 times per month. Each time, on top of the birth control pill, we use a correctly-applied spermicide condom. We always check it for leaks prior to insertion. We always wash our hands before we have sex to make sure nothing undesirable is on our hands or on the condom or inside the vagina. My penis has never been inside her vagina without a condom. On top of the birth control pill and spermicide condom, I pull out. I pull out 1-5 minutes before ejaculation and finish well away from her vagina (I stand on a different side of the room). I ensure, even after that, that the condom was leak-free. Even after using 3 methods of birth control each time we have sex (pill, spermicide condom, pull-out), I still get paranoid before her period is due. I know that we practice safer sex, however I still worry. Am I a crazy person for worrying every single month about this? Am I crazy for always wondering if she will get her period, and being super nervous for the days that lead up to it? Thanks very much for any input. In reference to "Tamtam" No, this is not a joke. I swear my statements are truthful and not exaggerated.
09/02/2010 03:50 PM
Having read the reports on the two men apprehended at Scipol airport on a supposed dry run; I got to thinking about what we out to look out for. The jihad, which calls for all out martyrdom might find us looking for men or women who would swallow a condom with C4 and a detonator activated with a small magnet rubbed against the gut, thus exciting a tesla coil to give a high voltage to the detonator. This means we have to X-ray everyone to determine who is safe to board the aircraft. This X-ray procedure causes obvious health health problems of their own to travelers who fly often. Should we not just stop people of certain Middle Eastern races from boarding flights altogether? I know this appears an extreme course of action, but in the interests of public safety, I can see no other course of action to alleviate this threat. What do you think of the situation, and how else do you think we can overcome the perceived threats to our safety in the air and on our airport compounds? XX Psyhco, you would have to make sure the flight crew was Muslim, too, eh. El Jefe... viz.... "Is that aftershave Mr Mohamet, or Nitroglycerine? Reply... "Shake it and find out."
09/02/2010 03:46 PM
i had safe sex on the 30th of August, and i felt something wet on my leg near the end. the condom didn't break but maybe it slipped somehow and that's why i felt that wet stuff just on my leg. i should get my period on the 4th of September, meaning i'm not in my fertile period. i took a pregnancy test today and it came back negative. are there any chances i could be pregnant?
09/02/2010 01:23 PM
So my girlfriend and I are starting to have sex, and I respect her way too much to be careless. I also don't want a kid myself :/ Anyways, she is working on getting the pill. I've done research and know about different ways a girl can get pregnant. So I always pee before sex incase if there was a break in the condom my pre-cum would not get her pregnant. I also always check the condom consistently for any tears before I ejaculate. Then I pull out before I cum even though I have a condom on and ejaculate in that to ensure there is no exposure to her vagina. Is there anything else I can be doing? She is trying to get birth control.
09/01/2010 08:45 PM
I had no idea it was going to happen tonight but it did . . We were both virgins . My boyfriend and I were laying down, he was fingering me I was giving him a hand job , both our pants were off. Then he got on top of me and tried to "put it in" . I was blocking my vagina and yelling no to him and trying to push him off .. but the thing is, earlier that day when we were talking about sex i told him i wanted to have sex really bad, cause i do, but wouldn't until I'm 18 . I guess he didn't care at all . So while i was yelling no he was saying i know you want to . Then i pushed him off the bed and i told him "no dick is going near my vagina unless a condom is on it and that doesn't mean anything is going to happen either, i just want to be safe while we are laying down cause you always get too close." and instead, he puts the condom on, and does it again ! Tries putting it in . . so we started having sex. I didn't want to stop because I really felt ready and everything, but i didn't want to loose my virginity until i was 18. . So I'm pissed at myself and him . After, i was like it wasnt suppose to happen until i was 18.. and he said don't worry we are gunna get married so it doesn't matter . But this isn't the first time something like this happened. A couple weeks before this he actually stuck his dick in my mouth while i was telling him no and he was just like i know you want to! He said he would never do it again, Then a couple days after that happened we when we were both naked fingering and hand job, he tried to have sex / tried to rape me, in my terms. We got in a big fight after that cause i was saying he basically raped me and he got all mad and was bout to cry and said to go home but we made up and went for a walk . . Well my friends are telling me to break up with him because of this but i love him so much... i tried to break up with him but he was crying and beggin me not to . i don't know if he loves me but i think he does . . we are close . He used to be a man whore and try getting with every girl but everyone said he defiantly changed for me. Plus we have known each other for about 4 years and have had a thing (we talked) , but just started going out pretty recently. I really do love him, and i need to make sure he loves me, because if i lost my virginity to his ***, we better get married now. I don't play around with sexual stuff, so i needa know, should i dump him even though i love him so so much .. and i would hate to get rid of the man i'm deeply in love with. . ? please help. i need advice , please . Btw, i'm 15 , Almost 16 .
09/01/2010 07:50 PM
I have alot of problems using the BC pill because of hormone imbalances, but my boyfriend and I are still always safe, we use condoms EVERY time! I even use ovulation tests to see when my days are, and we don't do anyting for those days that I am. Sorry, just wanted to get that out there before I started. Okay I got my period on August 8th. It was a fairly heavy period and everything was fine. Have had a normal (yet never regular amount of days) period for months. Boyfriend and I had sex sevral times, but always used a condom and always check for splits, tears or holes. I even used an ovulation test to avoid the risk even furthur so not to have intercourse on those specific days and a day or so before and after (13th day-16th day). Now the last 5 days or so I have been having achy breasts (but also some back, neck, and shoulder pain) for the last few days. I have also been slightly more tired than normal, but I also seem to be alot bussier the last few days, and have been hungry all the time for the last 2 days or so. Do you think I could possibly be pregnant or because I'm starting to think I might be do you think maybe my mind is tricking my body? My boyfirned thinks I'm letting it get to my head, but it's hard to ignore the signs, could it just be in my head? My period isn't for another few days so I can't take a test yet. Maybe just some words to ease my mind until then?
09/01/2010 04:11 PM
Lost my virginity a few weeks back,, we've only been using condoms but I don't feel v safe using just them and neither does my boyfriend so, I'm going to look into the pill or the patch because they are the less permanent ones - I'm a little afraid of things like the rod and the injection. All of it feels completely unnatural to me so I'm a little scared to try them, especially with the random side effects I've heard about - can anyone advise me on what would be best out of these?
09/01/2010 11:28 AM
I know the decisions I made were poor, no need to scold me as the torture of waiting is taking its toll. I know the only way to truly know is to take a pregnancy test / see a doctor. However some input would be great. I started my period August 12 and ended August 17 (typical 5/6 day period) On August 25 I started bleeding. Not very heavy but enough to use a tampon, this lssted for about 2 days. On August 27 I had unprotected sex, he did not cum/finish at all. To be safe I took Plan B about 8 hours after. On august 28 I had unprotected sex again, condom broke, he says he didn't finish again. Wanted to be safe again so on August 29 (about 12 hours after sex I took another plan b) I realize there is precum so it still is a possibility. Was I ovulating the days I had sex? Is there still a high risk of pregnancy even though he did not cum inside me, and I took plan b after both incidents? What was the bleeding? I'm terrified! And I do not stand for abortion.
09/01/2010 10:07 AM
My bf and I have been going out for a couple of months now. We're both sixteen and faithful to each other. We are still using condoms and I'd really like to get rid of them bc I think we are both clean. Using condoms especially for oral is getting to be really tiresome. When is it safe to go skin onn skin?
09/01/2010 10:06 AM
I am a virgin, but am strongly considering sleeping with a partner soon. This question isn't directly related to my partner, just more in general: how do you keep aftersex safe? I mean, once you remove the condom, and you're going to sleep together during the night, your genitalia are probably going to touch each other at some point during the night. How can you manage to keep this part safe realistically? Sorry, meant to say I was concerned about contracting STDs, not pregnancy.
09/01/2010 08:03 AM
I had no idea it was going to happen tonight but it did . . We were both virgins . My boyfriend and I were laying down, he was fingering me I was giving him a hand job , both our pants were off. Then he got on top of me and tried to "put it in" . I was blocking my vagina and yelling no to him and trying to push him off .. but the thing is, earlier that day when we were talking about sex i told him i wanted to have sex really bad, cause i do, but wouldn't until I'm 18 . I guess he didn't care at all . So while i was yelling no he was saying i know you want to . Then i pushed him off the bed and i told him "no dick is going near my vagina unless a condom is on it and that doesn't mean anything is going to happen either, i just want to be safe while we are laying down cause you always get too close." and instead, he puts the condom on, and does it again ! Tries putting it in . . then i couldn't really move , so we started having sex. And i just dealt with it . I really felt like ready and everything, but i didn't want to loose my virginity until i was 18. . So I'm pissed at myself and him . But this isn't the first time something like this happened. A couple weeks before this he actually stuck his dick in my mouth while i was telling him no and screaming at him. He said he would never do it again, Then a couple days after that happened we when we were both naked fingering and hand job, he tried to have sex / tried to rape me, in my terms. We got in a big screaming fight after that cause i was saying he basically raped me and he got all mad and said to go home but we made up and went for a walk . . Well my friends are telling me to break up with him because of this but i love him so much... i don't know if he loves me but i think he does . . we are close . He used to be a man whore and try getting with every girl, but before me hes only gotten 2 handjobs and 1 blowjob . So that's not that bad. Plus we have known each other for about 4 years and have had a thing (we talked) , but just started going out pretty recently. I really do love him, and i need to make sure he loves me, because if i lost my virginity to his ass, we better get married now. I don't play around with sexual stuff, so i needa know, should i dump him even though i love him so so much .. and i would hate to get rid of the man i'm deeply in love with. . ? please help. i need advice , please . Btw, i'm 15 , Almost 16 . i did want to, but i told him no, is it still rape ?? & after we had sex he said were gunna get married boo
09/01/2010 07:42 AM
I do. I mean always be safe right :)
09/01/2010 06:17 AM
I had sex today and the condom broke, i take birth control every day and i have for about 2 years now. but i want to be as safe as i can be, so is it okay to take plan B and birth control pills together?
09/01/2010 03:31 AM
tomorrow i will be 5 days late. i had sex on the night of the 23rd. we were safe and used a condom and it didnt break or anything. idk what to do or when i should really be concerned....please help!!!!!
09/01/2010 02:51 AM
tomorrow i will be 5 days late. i had sex on the night of the 23rd. we were safe and used a condom and it didnt break or anything. idk what to do or when i should really be concerned....please help!!!!!
09/01/2010 02:47 AM
My first question I asked before was "is it safe to purchase dental dams online", as I'd like to use protection and am wondering if they're more likely to be damaged or expired if I bought dental dams from a site like amazon.com or an adult site. The best answerer couldn't answer the question, but suggested that I take a condom and cut it so that it becomes a large square that I can use as a dental dam. Is this safe to do? Do I need to sterilize the scissors I cut it with first? Is it less effective than a dental dam? I do have flavored condoms in my room, but am wondering if I should opt for the actual dental dams
09/01/2010 02:04 AM
Can I still use them (obviously, they're not expired, but are they no longer safe because they expire in 8 months)?
09/01/2010 12:23 AM
My girlfriend's planning to get a prescription for birth control and i literally just found out that women on the pill are are at higher risk of cancer, is really that true? we've talked about her going on the pill but now i'm kind of worried, i mean we've been fine with condoms for over a year we just thought we'd take an extra precaution, if what i heard is true then whats the safest brand? or should i just stick to spermicidal condoms?
09/01/2010 12:12 AM
user condom but if broke a condom already ripped! how user safe this way? Please i want to know.
08/31/2010 10:32 PM
I had unprotected sex recently for the first time with my boyfriend and he didn't ejaculate in me. I've been on the pill for three weeks and take it at the same time everyday (between 10.30 - 11.30) We're both clean of STD's and what not but since I've never had unprotected sex before I'm worried I could get pregnant? I'm twenty one and I'm not stupid , just cautious. I usually have sex with condoms but wasn't on the pill with my last partner.
08/31/2010 09:33 PM
I have always masturbated with the foreskin over the head, because it was easier, faster, and I didn't have to use any lube. However, I want to try to masturbate with my foreskin pulled back, and feel how a circumcised man feels. I have tried it before using regular lotion, but i didn't like the feel of the lotion, and I just went back to masturbating with the foreskin over the head. I read that baby oil works better. Is it safe to use baby oil? I am going to pull the foreskin back , and keep it back. I need to practice having the foreskin pulled back to expose the head because during intercourse it should be pulled back, whether its in a condom or is not. Do you have any other advice, tips? Thanks.
08/31/2010 09:23 PM
i have made many mistakes this past year. I worked as gay escort, I'm a top and always used condoms except for foreplay. I dated a guy that was HIV positive and also an escort. We never had sex except a few times, he's a top but bttm for me and used condoms. When we broke up later I saw a guy for the course of 2 weeks when I was on vacation, we had sex about 7 times some unprotected, which I swear I never did before, I didn't think about it since, I had hookups since then, and played safe. Then I met an older Dominican guy at a club and went on a meth binge with him him and ghb for 2 days. Mostly all foreplay cuz strung out. But mutual rim and oral. I also propably penetrated him it's hard to remember, but I def remember him trying to penetrate me which I've never done he did for about 5 strokes. After coming down and seeing all the mistakes, I freaked out and assumed he was positive, my ex was positve, and my 2 week guy I found anonymously was positive. I though for sure I had HIV. I got tested, told the worker my story she said shed prayed when she tested me. It had been 3 monthes since the fling and 2 weeks since the binge. It was negative. Couple weeks later I'm called back. I have syphillis. I get it treated. I go back 3 months later. So it has now been 24 weeks since my fling I know is positive and 12 weeks since the guy I'm unsure. It comes back negative and I haven't been contacted by them since. I still feel unsure. I have been abstainet since feb 2009. But u feel I got syphillis passed to me by someone HIV positive, so I feel if I get tested now even though it's been over a year since the fling and over 6 months since Dominican. Isn't there less cases of syphillis than cases of HIV? I feel very dirty and ashamed, even though it's been treated. Sex is last on my mind. Help! Is my HIV test safe? Please be serious or please don't write anything
08/31/2010 08:27 PM
I've been on the pill for 2 months now, after taking a month off. This month I was supposed to start taking it on the 24th, but I couldn't pick up my prescription, so I took it the morning after, so the 25th. I want to have sex with my boyfriend without using a condom, but I don't know if it's safe. My mom says it will take a month to get back on fully, and I read some things online that said 7 days. So any info you could give me would be a great help.
08/31/2010 06:28 PM
im 16 and me & my boyfriend are very committed. Although, we have this talk daily about if there is even one little accident i could be pregnant..he agrees & admits that he does not want anyyy children with me in the near future but also admits he wants to be with me forever.. but besides all that..not the point.. is it safe to have sex without a condom if before he cums he takes it out and does it on a towel.. he always says that he feels it before he does it and knows right away that its going to happen.. also sometimes i feel that it is safer this way because the condom can slip off or break without even knowing. is this true? can he actually feel (everytime) before he cums.. & can even the slightest and littlest bit of cum (if it slips inside of me) get me pregnant? i really dont want any kids soon, so is this way actually pretty safe? ughh :/ thanks guys. but now im scared.. we've been doing it this way ever since & now i have the worst feeling in my stomach
08/31/2010 02:35 PM
Me And My Partner Had Sex Monday Evening And The Condom Split, We Already Have One Child Of 20 Months And Are Not Ready For More. My Question Is, Our Local Sexual Health Clinic Is Open Wednesday Evening (Today Is Tuesday) Will i Be Safe To Wait Until Then? Im In The Uk... Thanks
08/31/2010 12:18 PM
I need help, Me and my boyfriend had sex for the first time without a condom. I am on the pill (diane 35) But Im just paranoid about getting pregnant. I want to take the morning after pill as well just to be sure. I do take my pills everyday but not always at the same time. Will it effect my period if I take the morning after pill? And will it be safe? Im sure i'll feel better knowing Im nearly 100% not pregnant Please no rude comments. Thank you
08/31/2010 11:32 AM
I'm thinking about buying dental dams from amazon.com or an adult site, and I am wondering if that is safe to do as in, are they more likely to be damaged or expired? I can't find a store I could go to that would have them. Protection is important, so I'd like to know :) *I can't find a store that sells dental dams
08/31/2010 05:49 AM
when I have sex with my partner i get so scared and nervous. I dont know if this is normal. Everytime that i we have sex we use condoms and he finishes outside of me (sorry if thts too much info) but i still think it s not safe enough. What else should i do? should i start taking the pills?
08/31/2010 04:43 AM
i had the coil fitted at the end of july (paragard - without the hormone) and the doctor went through the risks and told me of ectopic pregnancy .... im always alert and like to be safe always i used condoms with my boyfriend of 3 years but stupidly didnt check them properly. i came on nearly 3 weeks ago and im still on i thought maybe it was just my body getting used to the coil etc but then i started to get a pain on the left side of my stomach and what the doctor said kind of clicked... am i just being too safe about it or..... because i know its rare......
08/31/2010 02:08 AM
I had sex on august 18th. We used a condom and everything was fine, my period is supposed to come at the beginning of the month, but today when i peed i wiped a pinky brown substance. Its only when i pee and it doesnt bleed out. Could i be pregnant?
08/31/2010 01:15 AM
I'm just wondering when it will be safe to have sex without a condom using Ortho Cyclen. Thanks!
08/30/2010 09:50 PM
08/30/2010 09:31 PM
Condoms defeat pleasure. If I use spermicidal lube while my girlfriend is on birth control, are we still extremely safe against pregnancy?
08/30/2010 08:11 PM
Me and my bf got together last feb, we already knew eachother, and on the first night i went home with him, we did use a condom but not sure which,then he was working away but asked me to wait for him until he was back,when he returned i can't again for sure say which condoms we used, but then most of the rest of the year of which back then we weren;t exactly a regular item, we were using the free condoms he had that he had from the clinic etc. He always went to the same draw where he had them. This year in may we had a five week break up, in which i went with someone else and i feel he may have too. Near to that time before we broke up, he was planning to get rid of his old wardrobe as the draw etc was broken and change a few things around, make the room look nice. However we broke up, so never got to see him do it all. We got back together, and when i went to his place it had all been done looked really nice. But he had upon tidying etc, moved the bag he had the free condoms in, in a little draw cabinet which is on a shelf above bed, we since some of last year have not used condoms since we both know we are ok for stds and i'm on the pill. But we still used the lubricating jelly that he had,i realised he'd moved those things when he reached up and opened the little draw and took it out. So another time when he popped to the shop, i thought i'd have a look at what he had in the draw, there was the small bag with jelly, and free condoms in it,but next to the little bag were 2 durex blue condoms there the extra safe ones, i was suprised to see them knowing that back last year he always used the free ones. So i looked on the back exp is end of 2014, so knowing since researching this, that durex has or can have up to five years exp i knew that they had to have been bought last or this year. When he came back i confronted him, he said he found them on clearing the wardrobe out, when he was breaking it up to throw out. I said yes but the date is very long so they can only have been bought this or last year, and he said he bought them out and is sure it was on the night we first went together, i argued on how he could of bought them where he said, and said unless he already had them or bought them quite soon after that night, then he hadn't used it with me as for the remainder of last year as he knows too, we used the free ones. He swears it was back then, but not sure exactly when he got them, which i says leaves it open that if it wasn't around the beginning with me, the one missing as there were 3 was not used with me. I just thought it a bit odd, that it was during the time we broke up, that he was doing his room up, and yes he moved the bag over to above bed in draw, but i think the durex ones i saw lying next to bag its like they were put in there in that 5 week gap,like he'd used one, and then put remaining 2 in, although that alone doesn't prove anything, as it would be the same as saying if he's put them in the bag what difference would it make to the way they were in the draw. Anyway i've got a feeling cos of the date he bought them during the time we were apart this year, he says no and continues to. But he said they got lost in wardrobe last year. But has also said can't be so sure if it was the night we got together which i said well that then leaves a open page which he's not like thinking like me, well it means something then. I am not accusing him of cheating cos i don't think he has, but its annoying me and i've told him not to say i think it was back then. I told him it will be better to say something else then tell me that. Please give your opinions on this thanks thankyou flower girl, that was a comforting answer ,i have been thinking the same, and others have told me that too, its not really my business, but for something that is not really that bad, it upsets me more and makes more of it, by him saying that he got them around same time with me last year, i am going to talk to him about it one more time and then drop it, i feel though that him saying what he said whether it could be true or not which it could be, means if he knows and i know that it leaves other options open too, for me it would create a trust issue thanks for your reply also happy man, yes we did use condoms but i can't be sure which ones we used right back at start, and i like he then knows we did use the free ones after that, my point was also why he didn't look for them during last year or buy any more as he like me wasn't too keen on the free ones. i do trust him and there's not really alot of reason that has ever made me think otherwise, i think some of it is to do with me ,i know this,well yes we did have gaps last year but he was quite straight with me as uch as i know, this year we just broke up without any sort of were finished talk, but have been together since and have discussed what is ok and how things should be, no we wouldn't be seeing other people, but i did without plan meet someone when me and him split, i just feel that as this was the longest gap we had in a fall out, that he may have gone with someone in that time,but he was the one who then got back in touch with me. It upsets me that i know he will want to provide me with some sort of answer to my query about this, and it is something that could be possible, but again it was more the date on them and then fact how he'd not put them in the bag with the others, which he found petty to notice, when i said that to him, which is why i thought it also leaves the door open that yes there are other possibilities of when he could have got them and used them,which it isn't a bad thing if it were when i'm thinking,but to tell me what he has,then makes it a lie which turns it into not a good thing to me. The other thing is that there is a massive 99p store that opened up a few months ago around or before we broke up, i just went in there yesterday its near to where he lives where shops are, and on paying for something at the counter ,i couldn't believe they are selling durex for 99p, 3 pack,date was pointing at me, and its same date as whats on his ones at home, and i immediatlely thought it wouldn't suprise me if he bought these here, as he as he never paid out for any , any time we were using the free ones, and shop not far from him, and date is bloody same, if he's bought them last year couldn't have that date on surely, as these ones are only on sale now in this shop and they have that date, which could mean they were selling some of same batch a few months ago when i think he may have got them anyway. I asked him and he said again,i've explained about it, and i said well yes you have, but then even you said you weren't sure of exact time you got them last year
08/30/2010 03:45 PM
im thinkin about having sex with my boyfriend and i want to take some precaution. i can take tablets so the pill is out of the question... condoms are fine but i want something easier any ideas?
08/30/2010 12:43 PM